I was debating whether this was even an interesting topic to write about. After all, 9 years isn’t 20 years. However, people still act just as appalled when you reveal that you have a 9 year age difference (maybe not just as appalled but there is definitely a look of shock). I think the biggest taboo about our age difference is that I, as the woman, am the older one. Maybe if I was Leo or Johnny (my references show my age), people would be less likely to assume I was Stella getting her groove back or a cougar. The hardest thing about our age difference was maintaining my confidence throughout it.