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Our 9 Year Age Difference

Our 9 Year Age Difference

I was debating whether this was even an interesting topic to write about. After all, 9 years isn’t 20 years. However, people still act just as appalled when you reveal that you have a 9 year age difference (maybe not just as appalled but there is definitely a look of shock). I think the biggest taboo about our age difference is that I, as the woman, am the older one.  Maybe if I was Leo or Johnny (my references show my age), people would be less likely to assume I was Stella getting her groove back or a cougar. The hardest thing about our age difference was maintaining my confidence throughout it. 

I met my husband when I was 30. He was 21. We were working in the same place but not at the same job. I remember thinking he was cute but I didn’t feel empowered enough to strut up to him with the confidence of Samantha Jones. I was just gonna leave it at that. I knew he was younger but I really didn’t know how much younger at the time. To my surprise, he mentioned he thought I was cute to some mutual friends on a social outing, that I didn’t attend. When this got back to me, I was very confused. I thought he was talking about the other Jamie, my friend Jamie, who was the same age as him. However, she was at the outing and assured me, he didn’t mean her. He would periodically come into my job and eventually ended up asking me out. I asked our mutual friend, how old he was. She replied, “I think he’s 25.” Spoiler alert, she was wrong. 
 
Before our date, I remember being very nervous because he was younger than me. I didn’t know what to expect and I heard horror stories about dating guys from 20-25 from people that were that age. I worked with two guys around that age, so I decided to ask them for their advice. Their advice was so simple and spot on, I still give that advice out to this day. They said, “ Don’t offer to pay.” I really was shocked by this. I usually always offer to pay or chip in. Don’t guys love that? Don’t guys find that considerate? They really were adamant about me not paying. We went back and forth because I wanted to understand their reasoning but basically there were two reasons; a guy who will be willing to pay without question is the kind of guy you want to end up with and because he’s younger, you don’t want to make him feel inadequate by offering to pay.   
 
On our first date, I found out he was 21. This was a little scary to find out because I didn’t know if we would be in the same point in our lives. I decided to just go with it and not over analyze, so basically go completely against my nature. However, the reason I felt at ease was because I always felt very safe with him. If it was never brought up, I rarely thought about our age difference. He was very mature if not more so than people I have dated that were my own age. 
Our biggest obstacle wasn’t the age difference itself but in the beginning I had a lot of trouble dealing with people’s perceptions of me, because of our age difference. On his end, when he would mention me to any of his female “friends,” the would refer to me as a, ‘cougar.’ This really upset and confused me because the term cougar made me feel like I was the aggressor. I hate the term in general. It also usually refers to women in their forties of fifties and has the implication of a relationship being purely physical. I think perhaps, they were just trying to be funny or get a rise out of him. 
 
Shortly after we started dating, I switched jobs. I had new coworkers. They were much more judgmental and upon finding out our age difference would act so disrespectful. The guys would act shocked and then make it seem like I was predator or that I would be attracted to them because they were younger than me. I only encountered one judge-y girl at work who expressed to me that our age difference was weird and I shouldn’t call my husband, (who was my boyfriend at the time) “cute” or refer to him as, “baby.” As time passed, I waited longer to let someone know our age difference. 
Now that we are married, our age difference almost never comes up. He’s 26 now and I’m 35. Our closest friends never cared. Our families only cared a little at first before they got to know us individually. I guess throughout it all, I’ve become more confident in our relationship and not how people perceive it. I’ve learned how to block out all the misconceptions and not give that any energy. 
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Diving into the Food Scene in Arizona!

Diving into the Food Scene in Arizona!

I just moved to Arizona from New York, so obviously my major concern was will the food here be any good or more accurately as good as New York? I've visited Arizona once before and the food didn't impress me much, TBH. I should preface by saying, I'm a vegetarian and a picky one at that! I did however end up being pleasantly surprised as some of the food here so far, has blown me away! Here are a few of the restaurants I highly recommend.

MELLOW MUSHROOM

If you love pizza as much as I do, that'll be something you will definitely miss if you are a New York or Chicago native and you decide to you move out of state. That being said, I FELL IN LOVE WITH MELLOW MUSHROOM. There are five locations in Arizona. I ordered the Holy Shiitake Pie (pictured above). This pizza is heaven on Earth! The white drizzle and mushrooms are such an amazing combo. I'm not a huge crust girl. I will eat it if I'm very hungry but the crust in Mellow Mushroom is so good, I make a point to save room for it. Gisel ordered the Kosmic Karma and said it made her, "want to change zip codes" (Gisel insisted on being quoted).

Next up on the this article is making my mouth water is..

POTBELLY SANDWICH SHOP

This is hands down the best sandwich I've ever had. The vegetarian (pictured above) is what I order.  It has cheddar, provolone, swiss and mushrooms toasted and then topped with mayonnaise, lettuce and tomato on multigrain bread. The mistake people make when there's a vegetarian option, is just adding every healthy thing they can dream up. It's more about keeping it simple that adding chickpeas and kale to every option. I love that this is a hot sandwich because most vegetarian options are cold. I can't say enough good things about Potbelly Sandwich Shop. I've eaten here three days in a row back to back. My husband loves their other sandwiches, so this isn't just for vegetarians. There are ten locations in Arizona. 

DANNY'S DONUT

I'm not a donut person. I love sweets so I consider it pretty lucky that I'm not into donuts because I don't need another unhealthy dessert in the mix. I went to Danny's Donut on a whim because I saw they had boba and I wanted to try it. I ordered a Coconut smoothie without boba because at the last minute of course, I changed my mind. I also got a strawberry sprinkle donut and a glazed donut. The coconut smoothie was amazing. It was light and not too sweet. The donut was incredible!! The best donut I've ever had and I've ordered from that super bougie Doughnut Plant place in New York. That place deeply underwhelmed me and solidified maybe I'm just not a donut person. However, one bite into Danny's Donut and now I'm not sure who I am. What I do know, is that Danny's Donuts are unmatched. The coffee is also phenomenal. I've visited Danny's several times since. The owners are also angels on Earth.

 I'm sure more restaurants will be added to the list once I live here longer and explore more places. But for now, these are the places I'm deeply obsessed with and are so happy to have found in my new home. 

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A little bit of home in Downtown Flagstaff, AZ

A little bit of home in Downtown Flagstaff, AZ

I just moved across the country from New York to Arizona! It was stressful moving in the middle of the pandemic, while also being five months pregnant but that's a story for another time.. For now, I want to talk about a gem of an area that I found along the way, downtown Flagstaff! 

Streets Shops Flagstaff Arizona

The area reminded me of a cross between Brooklyn and a small town. It's very clean and has some adorable shops. You can easily spend the day here. We ended up eating at Charly's Pub & Grill on 23 N Leroux Street, Flagstaff, AZ. I did not have high hopes for the food but we were starving. We ended up being pleasantly surprised because the food was amazing! The atmosphere felt haunted but I don't really mind that. I had B.Y.O. Burger. I loved it because they carry Beyond Burgers! A lot of times as a vegetarian, you have to settle for some sides as your meal, so I was really happy they had this option and it was delish! Gisel had a Flagstaff Dip, which is a prime rib sliced with au jus on a French roll. She loved it and thought it was absolutely delicious!

Once we regained our energy, we hit the shops!

Crytals Gemstones Flagstaff Arizona

There were many shops that had beautiful crystals but one stands out; not only for its price points but also for its large selection of crystals. Crystal Magic on 1 N San Francisco Street, Flagstaff, AZ is definitely worth the trip. The inside is breathtaking but make sure to really save up a few paychecks if you intend on shopping there. We visited a few other stores that were really special but I will just list them because I was too overcome by their beauty to take pictures.

 

Flagstaff Arizona Greenry

Earthbound Trading Co.

22 N San Francisco Street

Flagstaff, AZ 86001

Earthbound Trading Co. had affordable crystals, decor, jewelry and adorable women's clothes. I loved the atmosphere. It's a store everyone can enjoy. Great for gifts and if you want to gift yourself, which I often do.

 Earth Bound Shop Arizona Flagstaff

Crystal Ball Flagstaff Arizona

Eye Ball Glass Flagstaff Arizona
Art Gallery Flagstaff Arizona
Dia De Los Muertos Art Gallery Flagstaff Arizona

There's also some galleries in the area that are nice if you want to pick up art from local artist for your home or for gifts!

Steep Tea Coffee Shop Flagstaff Arizona

I also want to mention where I had the best strawberry matcha latte and when I visited a second time, I had the best lavender matcha latte. Yes, I have a thing for matcha! Anyway, it was a little teashop called Steep Leaf Lounge on 1 E Aspen Ave. It isn't open for indoor sipping right now but they have chairs and tables set up outside, so you can people watch and sip your delicious tea or coffee. 

Last but not least..

Flagstaff Public Bathroom

This sketchy little area; what I appreciate most is they have a public bathroom. I'm always looking for one and can never find one. They are right across from this strip of bars and restaurants. They had a crepe place here that I didn't get to try but I will go back soon and report! 

I hope you visit Flagstaff soon. I know I will! 

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